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There’s more to say after R U OK?

 
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There’s more to say after R U OK?
by Craig Blair - Tuesday, 1 September 2020, 11:58 AM
 

1. Ask R U OK? Or say something like...

  • “I’ve noticed a few changes in what you’ve been saying/doing. How are things for you at the moment?”
  • “I know there’s been some big life changes for you recently. How are you going with that?”
  • “You don’t seem yourself lately – want to talk about it?”
  • “You don’t seem yourself lately – want to talk about it?”
  • “Just checking in to see how you’re going?”
  • “With everything that’s going on, you’ve been on my mind lately, how are you?” 
  • “You’ve got a lot going on right now. How are you doing?”
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    2. Listen - You could say...
    • “What’s been happening?”
    • “Have you been feeling this way for a while?”
    • “I’m here to listen if you want to talk more.”
    • “I’m not going to pretend I know what it’s like for you, but
    • I’m here to listen to why you feel the way you do.”
    • “It sounds like that would be really tough. How are you going with managing it?”
    • “Do you feel like chatting a bit longer? I’m ready to listen.”
    • “So, what was that like?”
    • “That’s tough. Keep talking, I’m listening.”
    • “What you’re going through isn’t easy, It’s good we can talk about it.
    • “Thank you for sharing this with me. That can’t have been easy for you.”
    • “Take your time, I’m here for you.”
    • “If there’s something you’re unsure about sharing with me right now, I just want you to know I’m here when you’re ready?”

    3. Encourage Action - You could say...
  • “What do you think is a first step that would
    help you through this?
  • “What can I do right now to support you?”
  • “Have you had much support around you?”
  • “What’s something you enjoy doing? Making time for that can really help.”
4. Check in - You could say...
“ I would like to keep checking in with you, is that OK?”“ Hey, how have you been since we last chatted?”“Just wanted to check in and see how you’re doing?”“ Have things improved or changed since we last spoke?”“Do you need more support?”